Whether you’re still trying to establish new routines, work from home while caring for your children or others, or dealing with a precarious employment situation, we all could use a bit of extra support right now. For many of us, we have spent more time with our partner in the past few weeks than we have in the past few years. Being together 24/7 can be challenging, but it doesn’t have to be.
Here are some of my tips on how to take care of your relationship and get those sparks flying in a good way!
- Remind yourself of the good stuff. Where focus goes energy flows. No one is perfect, whether you focus on your partner's admirable qualities or their faults - it will have a huge impact on your relationship. Let’s say you view your partner as 90% admirable and 10% faults. If you only focus on that 10%, it gets 100% of your attention which is problematic. Instead, focus on the good stuff - verbalise your appreciation every day. Before long you should see the impact on your relationship and what they notice about you too. And if you don't then don't worry, as there are other things you can do.
- Focus on what YOU can change - not how you want your partner to change. This is key - waiting for your partner to change will only leave you feeling frustrated and helpless. Take this time to consider what YOU bring to your relationship and your own personal growth. It is inevitable that your partner will be affected by the changes that you make.