Too often we focus on the negative side of divorce, the heartache, the trauma, the failure, the loss. But there is another side to divorce - the opportunities and positive by-products we don’t discuss. After all divorce is a beginning, not an end.

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In this article, I’m going to remind you of the positives and what you have to look forward to: 

‍Self-discovery. 

When we go through a trauma we are forced to dig deep to muster the strength and courage to move forward. It causes us to question what we want, what we need/our purpose, and what are our values. Answering these questions will lead to empowerment and a brighter future. 

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More free time. 

At first, it might seem strange and painful even to be without your children, whilst they spend time with their other parents, but in time you will come to appreciate the freedom you now have and all the things you can do with it. 

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Self-care. 

One of the things you can do with your new free time is to invest in self-care, such as  mediation, yoga retreats, mindfulness – ways to make you feel better all the time.  

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New hobbies and interests. 

Another thing you can do with your new time is look into personal projects, interests and hobbies you have always wanted to do but never got round. Now is your chance to grab the impetus and try those things. 

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New career opportunities. 

Changes in your personal life can also lead to opportunities in your professional life, it can make you look to change, instigate a role which takes you away from home a bit more,  rekindle or embark on a career that you wouldn’t have if you had stayed married. 

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Meeting new people. 

One of the biggest fears for people getting divorced is losing their friends and social circle, but divorce is also an opportunity to meet new people and form new friendships – even creating romantic attachments. It may seem like a long way off to imagine yourself with someone else, or it might be all you are thinking about. Either way, the fact is you now have the opportunity to meet new people and to see what happens..

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I hope this article has shown you that as painful as divorce can be, there is also so much hope and opportunity that would not have been possible otherwise. This is all for the good, so remember divorce is a beginning, not an end. 

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