The Perfect Life Through A Lens

9 May
19

We don’t need to be perfect we just need to be brave enough to live.

We live in a time where anxiety, stress and depression are on the rise as we continue to feed our inner critic with examples of where we don’t match up to the perfect life we see on social media.

We choose to follower influencers who are famous for who their parents are, leaking a sex tape or being on a contrived reality TV show rather than their talent. It seems to me between the endless hair and make up tutorials there is very little content true to life that is based in some sort of reality not the polished, tanned, filtered one.

I am always amazed by the staggering number of people who choose to watch a live event through their camera phone rather than being there in the moment it is like watching the event from home on a much smaller screen. Or those who are obsessed with tagging themselves  in rather than being present in the place you are at. Don’t get me wrong I am guilty of it too. Documenting life on social media has become a way of life for many of us. To the point were experts believe babies born today will shun social media because of their lives being like the truman show.

The latest trend is buying clothes for photos on instagram before sending them back with the tags on. It would seem social responsibility is someone else’s problem in a bid to create an illusion of a champagne lifestyle on lemonade money.

And yet we are more anxious, depressed and self critical than ever because pretending we have it all doesn’t make us happy. Instead it feeds the inner critic, convincing  ourselves we are not good enough, causing us to conform because we are striving for a perfection that doesn’t exist where we will inevitably fall short. When in fact real happiness comes from being true to you -  your values, your dreams, your ambitions and having the confidence to go for them. It is holding your own opinion of you and your own self worth above the judgements of others that gives you the freedom and confidence to make the ideal life you are striving for a reality.

It puts you back in the driving seat of your own life because you set the terms, you give yourself the validation, you have the confidence to make it happen. Instead of being at the mercy of other people's judgements and validation.

We don’t need to be perfect we just need to be brave enough to live.

Nichole

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